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Topping to the Next Level
Hot Negotiation

Co-taught by Max and Russell of Flirts, Inc.

Sunday, May 11th, 2008

1:00 PM to 4:00 PM

at the Center for Sex Positive Culture (CSPC) in Seattle

Over the last few months Russell and Max have been discussing topping models and what it takes to produce a good scene. We began jotting down our notes and realized that we were creating the 'Topping Skills" workshop we wished we'd found 15 years ago.

The Topping to the Next Level Series

We'll be doing a series of four workshops on the second Sunday of the month, as follows:

Sunday February 10th	1:00 - 4:00 PM	Techniques for Thoughtful Tops
Sunday April 13th	1:00 - 4:00 PM	How to Push
Sunday May 11th	1:00 - 4:00 PM	Hot Negotiation
Sunday June 8th	1:00 - 4:00 PM	Specialty Tools

What we'll be covering 

Negotiation is much more than finding out what your bottom likes and doesn't like.

Negotiation is the foundation for the scene. It establishes consent, builds trust, sets a tone, creates expectations and develops boundaries.

With the right tools, it can also be hot, seductive and wickedly effective.

Topics we'll be covering include:

• What is the real purpose of negotiation?
• Where does the negotiation end and the scene start?
• Negotiation objectives and how to meet them
• When should your negotiation NOT lead to a scene?
• Negotiation styles
• Specific techniques for eliciting engagement, obtaining consent and gathering information
• Demos and exercises to sharpen your negotiation skills

It's important to get the most out of your negotiations. Come explore which negotiation styles fit you and what works best for different situations.

Workshop Format

Because there's so much information to cover, the workshops will be primarily demo and lecture. There's no need to bring a practice partner, although we think this material is as valuable to bottoms as it is to tops. Bottoms - don't you want to know what your top is up to?

Handouts will be provided to jog your memory and to supply additional references.

While some topping experience will be helpful, the workshops are accessible to all skill levels and are applicable to all orientations / genders.

About Russell

Russell has been an active participant in the Seattle Leather scene since 1993 and brings experiences from top and bottom, dominant and submissive, and spiritual erotic practices. Russell teaches several workshops as part of the Flirts Inc team.

About Max

Max is a Seattle-based bondage expert who teaches a variety of bondage and BDSM workshops. He's been active in Seattle's BDSM community since 1992 and has been teaching workshops since 1999. You can read Max's full bio here.

Registration and Fees

Workshop fee: $40

CSPC membership is NOT required for the workshop. Please bring ID to verify that you're at least 18 years old.

Pre-registration is NOT required for the workshop.

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